Women in Cambodia are often shy when it comes to discussing the topic of sex, as it is still a taboo subject for many. To help with the process of opening dialogue between people – which includes couples, parents and children, casual acquaintances – here are “often asked” questions and information people would like explained.
When is it good to have sex?
The easy answer is “when you feel like it”. The more difficult response is “when you are ready”, and that means physically, mentally and emotionally.
Will I get pregnant?
Yes, if you don’t use protection it is a risk. Do you want to have a child? If you are not ready for the responsibilities of motherhood, don’t have unprotected sex.
Can I get diseases?
Yes. Sexually transmitted infections (STI), include gonorrhoea, chlamydia, genital warts, syphilis, hepatitis B and human immunodeficiency virus. Some of these STIs don’t have obvious symptoms so people may not even know they have them. It is a good idea to get a sexual health check-up as part of your annual medical.
Is it true that once you have sex with men they don’t want to see you again?
This can be a tricky one. Some men just want to have sex with as many women as possible. Another phrase is a “notch in the belt”, used by men who want to keep track of how many women they have as “one night stands”. Reread answer number one to see if you are ready for sex.
Can women suggest sex to men?
Of course we can. The most important thing about sex – and remember that we are all adults – is to be honest. So, women can make suggestions. If the man declines, it will teach you a good lesson about equality. Women don’t always say “yes”, so why should men?
What should I do if a man is too aggressive and I don’t want to have sex with him?
Run. Scream. Swear. Remember that you don’t have to do anything you don’t want to. Some men think it is just a protest and that you will change your mind. No means no. Do not be talked into something that you don’t want to do.
Do you have to be “in love” to have sex?
Sex is a biological reaction so you won’t have to be madly “in love” or “in lust” to have sex. Just make sure you use protection.